Jennifer Lopez has revealed that her now-husband Ben Affleck is the one who took the first step in reviving their love affair.
“Obviously we didn’t try to go out in public. But I didn’t ignore the fact that for me, I always felt like there was real love there, real love there,” the singer Fogg said In her November cover story, published on Tuesday.
The people in my life know that he was a very, very special person in my life. When we reconnected, those feelings for me were still very real.”
Lopez, 53, said Affleck, 50, emailed her after him. Split from Ana de Armas To tell her he had cheered about her in an interview. From there, they kept talking and started hanging out.
The “Let’s Get Loud” singer noted that reconnecting with an ex isn’t always a good idea.
“I don’t know I would recommend this to everyone,” she told the magazine. “Sometimes they outgrow each other, or grow differently.”
Lopez explained that she and Affleck “lost each other” and then “found each other” again.
“Not questioning anything that happened between them, because all of those things were also real,” she explained. “All we wanted was to come to a place of peace in our lives where we really felt the kind of love that you feel when you’re so young and wonder if you could ever have it again. Do you exist? Is that real? All those questions that I think everybody has “.
And she continued, “You go through all these relationships, and you’re looking and connecting and connecting with others, and you’re like, ‘Oh my God, is this life?’ Like a carousel, a roller coaster, a carnival ride? Then it settles. But the journey to it is a mystery to everyone.”
Lopez, who called off her engagement to Alex Rodriguez amid cheating rumors prior to her reunion with Affleck, has also thought about how she’s working on herself to recover from failed relationships in the past.
“I have to forgive myself for the things I did that I’m not proud of, and the choices I made that worked against me,” she said. “Self love is really about boundaries. Learn what you feel comfortable with and set boundaries, and not be afraid of the consequences.”
The Hustlers actress added that the best way to make sure things were going well was to “take care” of yourself.
“Knowing that by taking care of yourself everything will be fine, that people will treat you the way you want to be treated and your life will feel good,” she said. For a long time, I was like, ‘Yeah, do whatever you want! I can take it, I’ll be here, because I’m really strong, and I’ll be fine. Little by little, it fades with your self-worth, your self-respect, and your soul.”
The singer shares 14-year-old twins, Max and Amy, with ex-husband Marc Anthony, while Affleck and ex-wife Jennifer Garner share three children: Violet, 16, Seraphina, 13, and Samuel, 10.
Lopez called Affleck “an amazing parent” and said they “work really well together,” but their teenage kids are still coping.
“The transition is a process that has to be approached with great care,” Lopez said. “They have a lot of feelings. They are teenagers. But she is going really well so far.”
She continued, “What I hope to cultivate with our family is that his children have a new ally in me and my children have a new ally in him, someone who really loves them and cares about them but who can have a different perspective and help me see things that I cannot see with my children because I am emotionally restricted.”
In November of that year, Affleck proposed a 6.1-carat Harry Winston pink diamond ring that cost $2.5 million.
But the massive media attention surrounding their engagement caused the couple to be nervous and they postponed their 2003 wedding. By 2004, Lopez and Affleck had ended things, and she married Anthony by June of the same year.
Meanwhile, Affleck married Garner in 2005. Both Affleck and Lopez went on to welcome children with their spouses before things ended in divorce.
Lopez then moved on with Rodriguez while Affleck briefly dated de Armas. But when things ended for Lopez and the former MLB pro in 2021, Affleck quickly lapsed into And the pair has been going strong ever since.